Friday, June 18, 2021

12:00 PM-3:15 PM

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June 17, 2021 11:00 PM

This is a LIVE program and any post-event recordings will be subject to the On-Demand fee(s).

A reservation is required in advance of the program. Registrants will receive a confirmation e-mail the day before the event which will contain a link to join the meeting via Zoom and attachments of the handout material and CLE activity code and instruction on how to file with the Ky Bar Association (PDF files

Hosted by the LBA's ADR/Mediation Law Section

This 3-hour training will start with the dynamics of five high conflict personality disorders which most frequently impact legal disputes, in and out of court: narcissistic, borderline, antisocial, histrionic, and paranoid. This will include DSM-5 factors and recognizing their conflict behavior patterns. Then, tips for working with them as individual clients will be addressed, including what to do and what NOT to do. This will include EAR Statements for calming them, BIFF Responses for responding to emails, and setting limits. Next, tips for litigating the high conflict case will be addressed, including questions to ask clients, evaluations, taking depositions, presenting patterns of behavior to the court and requesting court orders to restrain high conflict behavior. Then methods for managing mediation with high conflict parties will be presented, including structuring the process, managing outbursts, and getting thoughtful participation in making and analyzing proposals.

Agenda 

12:00 PM - 01:00 PM Understanding High-Conflict Personalities 
An overview is provided of five high-conflict personality patterns and their common high-conflict behavior, including: Borderline, Narcissistic, Histrionic, Antisocial, and Paranoid. We will address their preoccupation with blaming others (their “targets of blame”) and how they often draw others into their conflicts (“negative advocates”).  Recent brain research about managing their negativity will be presented and a general approach provided for calming upset clients and moving them into problem-solving.                              

01:00 PM - 02:00 PM Managing Individuals with High-Conflict Personalities 
Four key skills will help you manage your relationship with high conflict personalities as clients, family members, and opposing parties and counsel. Known as the “CARS Method,” these skills include: Connecting with Empathy, Attention and Respect (including a practice exercise); Analyzing Alternatives; Responding to Hostility and Misinformation (including writing email responses that are Brief, Informative, Friendly and Firm – BIFF); and Setting Limits with Empathy, Attention and Respect, and Consequences.

02:15 PM - 03:15 PM Managing Cases in Litigation, Negotiation and Mediation 
This session will include tips for litigating the high conflict case, including questions to ask clients, evaluations, depositions, presenting patterns of behavior to the court and requesting court orders to restrain high conflict behavior. Then methods for managing mediation with high conflict parties will be presented, including structuring the process, managing outbursts, and getting thoughtful participation in making and analyzing proposals.

LEARNING OBJECTIVES                         

  1. Identify interpersonal conflict dynamics of 5 “high conflict” personality disorders.
  2. Apply four key skills for managing individuals with high-conflict personalities.
  3. Apply a method for presenting patterns of high-conflict behavior in court.
  4. Teach clients a 3-step method for making proposals and asking questions.
  5. Teach clients communication responses that are Brief, Informative, Friendly and Firm (BIFF).
  6. Describe how contagious emotions by parents and professionals impact children.

Speaker: Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq., High Conflict Institute

Bill Eddy is a lawyer, therapist and mediator, and the co-founder and Chief Innovation Officer of the High Conflict Institute based in San Diego, California. As a lawyer, he was a Certified Family Law Specialist in California for 15 years. Prior to that, he provided child and family counseling for 12 years in psychiatric hospitals and outpatient clinics as a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. For the past ten years, he was the Senior Family Mediator for the National Conflict Resolution Center based in San Diego.

Mr. Eddy has written several books, including:

High Conflict People in Legal Disputes, 2nd Ed.SPLITTING: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder

BIFF for CoParent Communication

So, What’s Your Proposal? Shifting High-Conflict People from Blaming to Problem-Solving in 30 Seconds!

In 2009, he developed the New Ways for Families short-term counseling program in use in several family court jurisdictions in the U. S. and Canada. In 2013, he developed the New Ways for Mediation method for high-conflict families.  

He is an adjunct instructor at the Pepperdine University School of Law near Los Angeles and a visiting instructor at two law schools in Melbourne and New Castle, Australia. He has presented on managing high-conflict personalities to lawyers, counselors, judges, mediators, collaborative professionals, human resource professionals, healthcare administrators, college administrators, law enforcement and others in over 35 states, several provinces in Canada, Australia, New Zealand, England, France, Greece, Israel, Austria and Sweden. His website is: www.HighConflictInstitute.com

LBA's ADR/Mediation Law Section Leadership:
Section Chair: A. Holland (Holly)Houston, Attorney at Law
Vice-Chair: OPEN POSITION

Cancellation Policy: All cancellations must be received by the LBA 24 hours in advance to receive a credit or refund. Substitutes will be allowed. This is a LIVE program and any post-event recordings will be subject to the On-Demand fee(s).

Credit Status: Pending
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